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Another Link Found Between Stress And Brain Function

Joel Helmes — Sat, 21 Jun 2025 04:43:55 +0000

There is no doubt stress, and our physiological stress response, significantly affects the way we function. Just here on the With a Little Help Counselling website, you will find many articles from the world of [...]

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One Partner Anxious and the Other Avoidant

Joel Helmes — Wed, 18 Jun 2025 03:17:50 +0000

I’m not blowing my own trumpet, however, after all these years, I’ve now worked with hundreds of couples. One of the common traits I have seen in couples that present for relationship counselling is the [...]

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Life Stage Phenomenon Seen In Couples Counselling

Joel Helmes — Mon, 24 Feb 2025 00:13:31 +0000

Couples in relationship counselling are often in these different life stages. Once you start working at something you start to see some distinct patterns and one I’ve noticed is that there are often two types [...]

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We Typically Get Better With Age

Joel Helmes — Wed, 12 Feb 2025 22:19:45 +0000

Things might not be where you want them to be now, but maybe the best is yet to come. There are a few aspects of this piece that I would like to cover, firstly, it’s [...]

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Consider the 20-Hour Rule When Learning New Skills

Joel Helmes — Mon, 10 Feb 2025 22:43:38 +0000

Learning a new set of skills can open up a whole new world to us, but it does take time. To master something you need to work at it for 10,000 hours. Many people believe [...]

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Online Therapy To Boom In Coming Years

Joel Helmes — Sun, 09 Feb 2025 22:26:43 +0000

People are increasingly turning to online counselling services. I recently made a big move, I handed in the keys to my office and shifted to an online-only service for my counselling clients. While I know [...]

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Perfect Invalidation Example

Joel Helmes — Fri, 07 Feb 2025 03:03:33 +0000

This movie scene gives a great example of invalidation Validating and invalidating others, especially those we love, can make a profound impact. If you validate someone’s emotions they will tend to feel more safe and [...]

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Beware the Control Trap

Joel Helmes — Thu, 06 Feb 2025 23:53:36 +0000

Trying to control things can only leave us feeling helpless Most people would, if given the chance, go for a ride on a roller coaster. Why? Well, I think it is mostly about those wonderful [...]

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Optimists Found To Be Better Savers

Joel Helmes — Sun, 02 Feb 2025 22:46:58 +0000

Being an optimist might not only help you avoid depression, but it might also help boost your savings account. There have been many studies that have found links between reduced depressive symptoms in more optimistic [...]

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Tired People Struggle With Mood

Joel Helmes — Thu, 30 Jan 2025 03:48:04 +0000

If you’ve read any of the Counselling-related posts on the With a Little Help Counselling website you might have picked up on some running themes. Things like how validation helps to build safety and intimacy [...]

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