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Perfect Invalidation Example

Joel Helmes — Fri, 07 Feb 2025 03:03:33 +0000

This movie scene gives a great example of invalidation Validating and invalidating others, especially those we love, can make a profound impact. If you validate someone’s emotions they will tend to feel more safe and [...]

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Awareness Comes Before Intimacy

Joel Helmes — Fri, 17 Jan 2025 01:16:33 +0000

Some people would say that it isn’t hard to find oneself, you need only look down or find a mirror, however, that is all purely superficial. The term “finding oneself” means an individual has cut [...]

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Vital Need to Understand Our Differences

Joel Helmes — Thu, 19 Dec 2024 22:47:52 +0000

If you were to travel to a faraway country where English was not the main language, let’s say Sweden for example, before you left on your trip you’d likely be prepared for the different communication [...]

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Shielding Kids from Stress Counterproductive

Joel Helmes — Sun, 08 Dec 2024 02:52:08 +0000

There is often a truth in that when we try and do the right thing, we may accidentally make a situation worse. I always think back to the findings that came about after World War [...]

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What is Internal Validation?

Joel Helmes — Thu, 15 Jun 2023 02:32:37 +0000

I cannot underscore just how important it is to validate other people, especially those we love and care deeply about (and I hope you’re getting it in return too), but what about filling your own [...]

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Must-See Validation Videos

Joel Helmes — Tue, 30 May 2023 01:40:37 +0000

There are many, many benefits to having a thorough understanding of Validation, however, some people do struggle to get a handle on it. Of course, there are two types of validation – External Validation and [...]

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Validation is not Agreement

Joel Helmes — Wed, 07 Dec 2022 01:05:22 +0000

Sometimes my counselling clients, especially in relationship counselling sessions, get confused about what validation is, and what it isn’t. Often, the belief is that if the person validates the way the other person is feeling, [...]

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The Power of Validation

Joel Helmes — Wed, 07 Dec 2022 00:11:08 +0000

I’ve worked with hundreds of couples from all walks of life, naturally, they come to me for relationship counselling because things aren’t going as well as they would like. In pretty much all of these [...]

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What you need to know about Invalidating Behaviour

Joel Helmes — Wed, 18 Aug 2021 06:27:32 +0000

There is a big difference between being listened to and being heard. Validating someone involves understanding and showing acceptance for the other person’s feelings. When people receive validation, they feel their emotions are not only seen [...]

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