Counselling Articles

The Uncle Argument Technique

We all have those pesky anxious thoughts, some people more than others, and sometimes just a little more than at other times. Our anxious thoughts come from the areas of our brain that produce emotions, […]

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What is the “Healthy Adult”?

There has been an eternal internal battle within human beings since the dawn of time – logic/rationality versus emotion. I have published a number of counselling articles here on the With a Little Help Counselling […]

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Most Attractive Personality Traits

The old saying goes that beauty is only skin deep. I’m also reminded of the lyrics from the Robert Palmer song “Doctor, Doctor” – A pretty face don’t make no pretty heart. Aside from the […]

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Consequences of Being a ‘Right Fighter’

There are times when I see the ‘Right Fighter’ in my Relationship Counselling work, sadly it’s a trait that rarely leads to good outcomes for the person. What is a right fighter? Well, these people […]

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New Link Found Between Stress and Behaviour

There are many well-established links between stress and human behaviour, and it is a phenomenon that I see regularly in my Counselling clients. I can also see this in myself. When I look back at […]

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More Safety = Less Stress = More Peace

I cannot understate the importance of safety and the dangerous effects of stress on human mental health and the impacts on the health of our interpersonal relationships. No matter who you are and what you’ve […]

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Complexity Causes Suffering – Peterson

There is little doubt that our lives today are more complex than those of the generations before us. Sure, we have many luxuries today that people not long ago could only dream of, even simple […]

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Stress Plays Big Role in Memory Formation

Almost always, people who seek out assistance from a therapist do so because their situation is causing them stress. As I’ve covered here, the problem with being under stress is that our body tries to […]

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Beware the Effects of Enmeshment

Enmeshment is one of those words that has come into the public domain in recent years, however, I think sometimes people aren’t entirely aware of what it is in interpersonal relationships. In the book Family […]

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Tired People are More Emotional People

We speak a lot about cycles in Counselling, particularly the cycles that we can find ourselves in, but sometimes are mostly unaware of. Cycles that sort of sneak up on us, or are so ingrained […]