Counselling Articles

Are you a Self-Sacrificer?

Almost, I’m talking probably 99% of my Relationship Counselling couples, include at least one person who can be classified as a Self-Sacrificer. It is remarkable how many people in couples counselling turn out to be […]

Counselling Articles

Validation is not Agreement

Sometimes my counselling clients, especially in relationship counselling sessions, get confused about what validation is, and what it isn’t. Often, the belief is that if the person validates the way the other person is feeling, […]

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Counselling Articles

The Power of Validation

I’ve worked with hundreds of couples from all walks of life, naturally, they come to me for relationship counselling because things aren’t going as well as they would like. In pretty much all of these […]

Counselling Articles

What I learned from our hens

During the COVID lockdowns, there was a resurgence in keeping chickens in backyard coops, and this experience highlighted a few things for me. We were one of the very many families that went out and […]

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Positive effects of better breathing

When we are under periods of stress the way that we breathe changes, and a new study shows this change could further impact our mental and emotional well-being. There is a consistent link seen in […]

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New link found between stress and salt

If you have a high-salt diet – you may be a little more stressed than the average person, and this could have big knock-on effects. A new study has found a link between a diet […]

Counselling Articles

Are our problems really our differences?

I always thought when I was studying to be a Relationship Counsellor that I would be working with couples that wanted to settle their differences. I mean, surely people that are having a dispute are […]

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Counselling Articles

Determine Your Values and Live Within Them

There are some common themes that you see when counselling both individuals and couples. Quite often, my clients present with issues that they want to sort out, but they are a bit stuck. Maybe they […]