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Counselling Articles

Healthy Partners Avoid Stalemates

Having worked with hundreds of couples as a Relationship Counsellor, it’s common to see couples in the position of stalemate. As I covered here, this inability to resolve an issue or negotiate a way forward […]

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One Partner Anxious and the Other Avoidant

I’m not blowing my own trumpet, however, after all these years, I’ve now worked with hundreds of couples. One of the common traits I have seen in couples that present for relationship counselling is the […]

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Life Stage Phenomenon Seen In Couples Counselling

Couples in relationship counselling are often in these different life stages. Once you start working at something you start to see some distinct patterns and one I’ve noticed is that there are often two types […]

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Reduce Stress With Sex And Food

Researchers prove pleasure helps us reduce our stress levels. When couples come to relationship counselling they are often experiencing stress and the dysfunction in the relationship might be having both a direct and indirect impact […]

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Should We Have Counselling Before Marriage?

Great question, and a really simple answer…yes, unequivocally you should! I’ve been a relationship counsellor now for almost six years and in that time I have worked with hundreds of couples. When you work with […]

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Online Therapy To Boom In Coming Years

People are increasingly turning to online counselling services. I recently made a big move, I handed in the keys to my office and shifted to an online-only service for my counselling clients. While I know […]

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Perfect Invalidation Example

This movie scene gives a great example of invalidation Validating and invalidating others, especially those we love, can make a profound impact. If you validate someone’s emotions they will tend to feel more safe and […]