Counselling Articles
Should I leave my relationship?
As a Relationship Counsellor it’s a question that does come up every now and then – Joel, should I stay or should I go? Of course, it is not my place to tell you what […]
Marriage Counselling
Counselling Articles
Help! My Partner Isn’t Who I Thought They Were
It’s definitely a trend I see in relationship counselling – a partner feeling as though they’ve been deceived. Sadly, sometimes (or actually, you might say often) it isn’t just feeling deceived, they have literally been […]
Counselling Articles
How a better relationship can help our sleep
Research has found Adults who share a bed with a partner or spouse sleep better than those who sleep alone. And, sleeping with your significant other in the same bed can lead to a better […]
Counselling Articles
Are you a Self-Sacrificer?
Almost, I’m talking probably 99% of my Relationship Counselling couples, include at least one person who can be classified as a Self-Sacrificer. It is remarkable how many people in couples counselling turn out to be […]
Counselling Articles
More evidence linking Gut Health to Emotional Wellbeing
One of the common phenomenons I see in relationship counselling is the link between stress, emotionality, and safety in the home. In short, stressed people are generally more emotional (Fight or Flight response triggered for […]
Counselling Articles
Validation is not Agreement
Sometimes my counselling clients, especially in relationship counselling sessions, get confused about what validation is, and what it isn’t. Often, the belief is that if the person validates the way the other person is feeling, […]
Counselling Articles
The Power of Validation
I’ve worked with hundreds of couples from all walks of life, naturally, they come to me for relationship counselling because things aren’t going as well as they would like. In pretty much all of these […]
Counselling Articles
What I learned from our hens
During the COVID lockdowns, there was a resurgence in keeping chickens in backyard coops, and this experience highlighted a few things for me. We were one of the very many families that went out and […]
Counselling Articles
The two Schemas (possibly) ruining your relationship
In my work as a Relationship Counsellor, I have met and worked with hundreds of couples. When you’ve seen this many couples, in situations ranging from mild irritations to significant conflict, you get to see […]
Counselling Articles
Positive effects of better breathing
When we are under periods of stress the way that we breathe changes, and a new study shows this change could further impact our mental and emotional well-being. There is a consistent link seen in […]