Articles by Joel Helmes

As a Relationship Counsellor I can assure you that I will work passionately and diligantly to help you improve your relationship. The issue often is, however, that I’m not tasked to help improve the relationship, […]

There is absolutely no doubt that if we are going to build depth in our relationship we must validate each other’s emotions (or ‘feelings’ if you prefer) and experience. Validation is what allows us to […]

There is a mountain of evidence that has already proven that prolonged stress often leads to depression, and now comes another study proving that very theory. The stress response is a fascinating physiological reaction and […]

There are many, many benefits to having a thorough understanding of Validation, however, some people do struggle to get a handle on it. Of course, there are two types of validation – External Validation and […]

It’s a question we get asked a lot – do you offer Counselling sessions in the evenings? The answer is that we do, and this includes all of our services, including Individual Counselling and Relationship […]

As a relationship counsellor you start to see certain trends and similarities in the couples that present for support. It seems to me, after years in the job, that although no two couples are exactly […]

The Beatles famously sang, “Money can’t buy me love,” but married couples who manage their finances together may love each other longer, according to new research.  Prior research suggests a correlation that couples who merge […]

As a Relationship Counsellor it’s a question that does come up every now and then – Joel, should I stay or should I go? Of course, it is not my place to tell you what […]